## Outcomes -V- Flow brings outcomes and they keep us going: - emotional - it makes us happy - material - fruits of our labour --- ### But sometimes... we get derailed by bad mood - by negative events or emotions around us - due to our own failing - by recalling a negative past and lose our flow. -V- Negativity captures our attention more than positivity. Negativity and pessimism reinforce themselves. -V- Negative feedback loop may keep us down, unproductive, in a bad mood. -V- We need **emotional stability** to keep on going. --- ### Hamster in a box

-V- ### Hamster in a box - when put in a box with a lid, it will try to jump out - and after a day or two it will give up and never try again - even once the lid is removed -V- -V- #### Baby Elephant Syndrome -V- Young elephant gets tied to a tree by a thin rope which it can't break. As an adult, it is constrained by the same thin rope and it doesn't break free. Because it learned it is no use to even try. -V- #### Learned helplessness [Martin Seligman] --- #### Hamster Procrastination Cycle 1. Do nothing 2. Have regrets 3. Doubt yourself 4. Feel helpless 5. GOTO 1 -V- #### Sounds familiar! 1. Do nothing 2. Have regrets 3. Doubt yourself 4. Feel helpless 5. GOTO 1 --- #### Positive Cycle of Flow 1. Do meaningful actions 2. Feel good 3. Growing skills 4. Believe in yourself 5. GOTO 1 -V- My morning routine of flow definitely helped! --- #### How to break out? --- ### Time Perspectives - positive past - negative past - present - future [Philip Zimbardo] -V- #### Focusing on - ~~positive past~~ - **negative past** - **present** - ~~future~~ #### results in a hamster, depressions. -V- #### Refocusing on - **positive past** - ~~negative past~~ - ~~present~~ - **future** #### breaks out of the hamster. --- #### How to orient yourself towards the future? Personal Vision --- #### How to perceive your past positively? Choice of attitude -V- We are free to choose our reaction to events. [Viktor Frankl] --- ### TOOL: Choice of attitude (originally named *Inner-game*; not related to Timothy Gallwey's work) -V- Interpreting seemingly *negative events* as **neutral** or even **positive**. -V- Event → 😟/😐/😀

#### Default: Failure → 😟

#### Choice: Failure → 😐/😀

Micro-habit that can be trained. -V- ### My switched attitudes 1. Burying past failures - 😱 "I caused a car crash!" - 😌 "No one got hurt, I learned from it and now I have an awesome story to tell!" 2. Handling rejections - 🤬 "They refused my merge request!" - 🙂 "I got feedback, I can improve it and make it even better for next time." --- ### TOOL: Three Good Things [Martin Seligman] (Learned Optimism) -V- At the end of every day, think about 3 things that went well for you. -V- #### Why? Increases positive emotions, hope and optimism. Strengthens your focus on positive past. -V- ### My routine? Done daily during dinner as a family. Today, I liked that... 1. I had a nice chat with my coworker 2. I resolved one bug 3. I finally gave my talk on procrastination!