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Outcomes


Daily meaningful activities

using skills you already have

gets you into flow.


Flow frequently brings outcomes:

  • emotional outcomes (makes us happy)
  • material outcomes (fruits of our labour)

Outcomes keep us going.


But sometimes...

we get derailed by bad mood

  • by negative events or emotions around us
  • due to our own failing
  • by recalling a negative past

and lose our flow.


Negativity captures our attention

more than positivity.


So we stay down

due to the negative feedback loop:

Negativity and pessimism reinforce themselves.


We need emotional stability to keep us going.


Negativity hinders progress


Hamster in a box

...


Learned helplessness

[Martin Seligman]

-V-

Baby Elephant Syndrome

...


Hamster Procrastination Cycle

  1. Do nothing
  2. Have regrets
  3. Doubt yourself
  4. Feel helpless
  5. GOTO 1

How to break out?


Time Perspectives

[Philip Zimbardo]

  • positive past
  • negative past
  • present
  • future

Focusing on

  • positive past
  • negative past
  • present
  • future

results in a hamster, depressions.


Refocusing on

  • positive past
  • negative past
  • present
  • future

breaks out of the hamster.


Positive Cycle of Flow

  1. Do meaningful actions
  2. Feel good
  3. Growing skills
  4. Believe in yourself
  5. GOTO 1

How to orient yourself towards the future?

Personal Vision


How to perceive your past positively?

Choice of attitude


We are free to choose our reaction to events.

[Viktor Frankl]


We choose how we interpret our past.


TOOL: Choice of attitude

(originally named Inner-game; not related to Timothy Gallwey's work)


Interpreting seemingly negative events

as neutral or even positive.


Event → 😟/😐/😀

Default:

Failure → 😟

Choice:

Failure → 😐/😀

Micro-habit that can be trained.



Learned optimism

  • by Martin Seligman

My Journey